Feeling alone,
I LOOOOOVE when the A says they will do whatever it takes.
Let him know what YOUR life will look like in the future. Is it 100% alcohol free every waking moment? This is a glorious thing... when I promised myself that this was my forever future it changed my life.
If that is what you want... make a vow to yourself. Make a line in the sand. Pour concrete in the line.
Want a peaceful happy marriage? Want real love? A giving and caring mate? Promise yourself that you wont settle for less. Communicate this.
Statistically with our A/Codie relationships already in the dumpster the only slim teeny tiny hope is .... COUNSELING!
Oh... won't do that. Ok. this is easy. Call me when you change your mind.
Hope that helps. Take what you want and leave the rest. Hugs your way.