It is my choice to uphold my boundaries for which I am grateful you all have so poignantly reminded me. I have faith that I can do this. This for me is about working the steps. It is interesting that I already had a plane ticket to come and be with family for the weekend. The same weekend that he was going to show up where I lived. He is coming for a funeral and is only passing thru town and was hoping for a brief face to face. I declined and restated my boundary when I accidentally got his call. The fix is tempting but losing my sanity again and again is not. I am simply removing myself from my DOC. Just for today.