hmm...... Lillamy you got me thinking now........
I was never married to the XA that was in my life, and throughout our five year relationship, we always maintained separate homes (pretty certain that was my salvation), but I have intentionally made a point of not sharing any of that info with this new guy.
I am trying to go forward in my life, best to leave the past right where it belongs. I certainly do not want to bring my old life, and all that excess baggage into a new possible relationship.
And here is what is eating at me at this very moment. I think I am truly ashamed to acknowledge that I wasted five years of my life with an out of control active alkie. Oh boy, I really need to come to terms with this. WTH????