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Old 05-24-2012, 08:10 AM
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lillamy
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Well... I think that for me, respect is built on honesty, and those two are the most important components of any relationship. It's easy for me to say, because the man in my life is someone who has been along for most of the ride as a friend, so it's not like I could hide the fact that I was a little chipped around the edges...

But I would like to think that if I had started dating someone who didn't know me, I would like him to know that I had lived through a hell that had made me a bit scarred and just tell him to please ask if I'm behaving erratically or strange, rather than assume it's his fault. Because that's the one thing I keep seeing with my new man: I react instinctively to things as if I was still around AXH. If he didn't know that, he'd think I was a little odd at times.

I've waded in slowly and with utter honesty. I hope you find the way that works for you -- and I'm glad you've found this man.
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