Your marriage isn't alive. You are definitely yoked, but not in matrimony, and not equally-- you are yoked more like an ox is to a plow (and you're the ox). In what world is what you've been describing to us a marriage?
I've been in a dead marriage-- one just like yours. I've been the ox. I'm in an alive marriage now. They are very, very, very different.
I'm so sorry,
Cyranoak