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Adventure That is the one thing that keeps you there? The fact that he boasts about you to other people? The fact that he says the complete opposite to other people that he says to your face? That is a good quality? Surely it doesn't make up for how he makes you feel in what should be the comfort/safety of your own home? Sounds like he is putting on a show for "the boys".
Pretty much, just like my dad. My dad would belittle me in front of certain people, put me down, etc but would boast about me to anyone who was in a position of authority or who was wealthy. It was really weird how he'd choose who he would boast to or who he would blindside me in front of!
He knows that I get hit on regularly. He sees his friends check me out. He laughs when men walk past me and they turn their heads to check me out. He will say, "Did you see that guy ogling your ass? What a jerk." Ummm, wasn't that what you liked about me, too, dear?
I did an experiment last summer when I took our son to the water park with his friend. I took off my wedding rings and it took 1 hour for a single dad to camp out next to me, ask me to watch his stuff while he took his kid to grab some food, and then sit down next to me and chat for hours. I knew more about him in 2 hours than I knew about my AH at the time. Wonder what happened to him, he was retiring from the Air Force at the time.