He's doing what alkie's do,
shift the focus,
blame everyone else,
twist the truth.
Their thought process is completely distorted. It's pure insanity.
Why care if he is annoyed with you? that's his issue, not yours.
Keep the conversation regarding the child short. "You are picking her up at 2 p.m. great," Click....... just hang up the phone.
Yes, it is difficult to not engage, but it's so very worth it, and so are you my friend, hang in there.