Thread: The first lie
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Old 05-22-2012, 12:33 PM
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Spes
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Yes, there are 2 minds in this house; the kind person who is my wife and the person driven by alcohol. It is my sense that, at a certain point the alcohol won and that person (the alcohol) lives here more than my wife.

During those times when she is fairly lucid and we do talk about our lives, I think she is aware of what the alcohol does but she is either unable, or doesn't want to, change. Kind of gives credence to that line about being powerless over alcohol. What finally made it click in my head was that I was powerless over alcohol.

You're right, it is very predictive, even when she begins that downward destructive spiral, it will be predictive.

My sense is that you, like myself, would like to think that we have the ability to fix the problem and keep our family together. I have learned that, for the first time in my life, there is this one thing I cannot fix. I cannot fix her.

What I can do is fix myself.

I truly wish you well.
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