Originally Posted by wanttobehealthy

Hell yes I am (rather, was) in a marriage to a narcissist at best and sociopath at worst. I don't throw either term around loosely but I think both to varying degrees fit AH well.

I attributed his abuse and mind bending behavior to alcohol for years and thought that at some point sane, rational conversations could occur.

What I realized finally was that AH was/is a man who can never be a part of a r/s because a) he can't care/empathize with anyone else's point of view b) he hears expression of feelings/needs from another as a direct assault on his character and c) his sense of entitlement to do/say/be whatever he wants without any disagreement makes it like being held hostage to be near him