Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
If you want to write an impact letter, do so for yourself and reread it as often as necessary, to maintain your own boundaries.
Good idea. Even if the letter never makes it to the counselor, it may be a tool to help you through. At least in my own experience, there's a "grieving process" when letting go of the child we once knew.
I am sorry for your pain and hope you find some peace.