thank you both for your replies.
they all drink for the same reason even his dad who is now dry and has been for a few years. they where raised as jehovahs witness and drink to escape what they have been told.
i did look for a meeting but there wasn't one in my area the closest was in next city 40 mins bus ride which i wouldn't mind but it was at night and it was to late to be out and i often work at nights. which is a shame cause i wanted to go to one.
i'm currently in the process of stepping down from my manargerment role to become a cashier so i don't have to work nights anymore so i'm always there for the kids and it also means if i decide to leave my husband i can get childcare.