Originally Posted by
Haybelly 
Oh my goodness...are you also married to my STBXAH? I can't tell you how many times he's thrown those very words at me!
Haybelly, I finally had to tell my AH "if it comes down to a choice between you and the horses, the horses will win."
So we're at an impasse, and I have chosen horses. He hates the horses and I hate his drinking. I'm sure not going to give up my lifelong passion for horses for him. I warned him on the first date 20 years ago, "any man who dates me has to like horses and dogs, they come with the package." Someone who truly loves me would not ask me to give up something so dear to my heart and healthy for our daughters also.