With all due respect to dotherighthing.....I say I got sober for my kids and husband, and I stay sober for me. I started my journey not really thinking it was forever, but I made a promise to my family. Every time I thought " well...maybe it wouldn't hurt if I had one little glass of wine", I would conjure up the faces of my children seeing me in detox....a look That broke my heart. The further I got into my sobriety the better it felt, and the more I found I truly enjoyed it.....it feels great to be sober. So now I stay that way.....for myself. That is probably outside the realm of conventional wisdom, but it worked and is working for me!