Hi Bulldawger. I'm an alcoholic wife to a sober husband. I'm fortunate in that he's willing to go to open AA meetings with me an participate in my recovery. Perhaps your hubby would be willing to attend open meetings with you as well? Mine won't go to Alanon alone but he'll do stuff with me because he likes being with me and knowing that i'm working on myself. Welcome to SR and i hope you find what you need here!