I understand. They really like to push our buttons. It's like when I told my AH that I needed to 'think about driving him somewhere' and he recanted it to me saying that I said NO. I had to ask him, "No, I didn't say no. What did I actually say?" To which he said, "you said you'd think about it." So, I know he heard me, he just heard NO in his own way. I literally think they have a hearing problem. Like some little goblin in their brain takes in the words and twists them around and the message gets distorted and they respond to that twisted message. Seriously, though, you are dealing with someone who has stinkin' thinkin' and be proud of yourself for setting a boundary. Remind yourself that this is for you, not for him. He can think what he likes, you don't have to react.