Hello Puddin, just weighing in to give my support and understanding. My son is 22. He is living in a sober living hotel with 21 other men. He seems to be doing well, but he doesnt tell me much about his life now. I prefer it that way. The best thing you can do is give your son the dignity of his choices and let him go. You will find peace. As a codie, it hurts me not to "know" what is going on with my son, but it also brings peace and unity to the rest of the family. I pray for him daily and enjoy the brief visits we have. You can have that peace and you can have that hope. Hugs and best wishes and prayers to you and your family.