I was in the same boat a few months ago (I posted about it on here).
I RAGED.
I was SO mad.
It was like he was just throwing in the towel! Our future was based on his sobriety and he chose a mistress named "Coors."
I said a lot of things I now regret...
..but there was ONE thing, one positive thing, that came out of it...
...I joined Al Anon. I saw how unmanageable *I* had become.
Please keep posting. This site was a saving grace for me after the relapse.