Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
My T said that in his 30 yrs experience once an abuser gets the 50% custody they claim to want, they exercise that right for a few months at best and then it's done. At that point I will document his lack of time with the girls and petition after a period of time to show that I am the primary parent and have the custody agreement changed.
This is exactly what happened with my SIL and her abusive, violent, psychopathic XAH. He went for the throat, got 50% custody, and within months he had dropped his guard, got a DUI, got arrested for assault, got into the CPS system because he endangered the life of one child (with witnesses) and it all went to hell. He really didn't have any interest in being with his sons half the time. My SIL eventually had full custody, and dad only saw the kids in supervised visits. Hopefully over time your XAH's true colors will show, and he'll shoot himself in the foot. That's one thing about alcoholics, they can't keep up the facade forever.