Originally Posted by
Gavinandnikki 
...The martinis were on my birthday. My favorite restaurant. My alcoholic husband ordered wine. I sat there, staring, my AV said to me..."come on, it's your birthday....". I said "why hello Beast, I think I will have one". Tasted pretty good, so had another...
Wine is usually the choice with expensive food. It sounds like the gin and vomiting was a convoluted acting out, like you cut your Beast loose and gave it the whole nine yards, possibly to create some variance or ultimatum in the comingling of your husband's and your own AVs.
As you think about making a Big Plan, how much does your husband's AV play an influencial role?