"never let me imagine that my satisfaction with life depends on what someone else may do" ODAT in Al-Anon pg 234
In recovery I learned "if you want something different, you have to be willing to do something different"
According to your post - sober or not sober ~ life with your AH doesn't appear to be healthy ~ not saying you have to leave ~ just throwing out "food for thought" what can YOU do to make that life happier, healthier and more sanity for you & your teenager?
PINK HUGS & prayers for the very best,
Rita