Originally Posted by
outtolunch 
This ^ is a victim's mindset.
Using the " I love him/her, " is an excuse to choose people and/or situations that lead to predictable disappointment, failure and mistreatment.
Interesting, I did think "no one can make us do anything" which is a start for me. (no judgments being made on what was posted, just checking myself for progress).
Can you please give an example of a healthy mindset? I am good at saying what should not be done..finding what I feel is wrong but still struggling with healthier thinking of how I should talk to myself.
I hope this makes sense.