That's a step you have to do yourself Armywife...With a little help from your Higher Power....Start writing and praying. I tried to give myself an hour a day...Very quiet place to work....That was about all I could handle. Just do it like it says in the book. If you are really jammed with a question and you can't get ahold of your sponsor. Show up early and stay late after meetings and ask people that have done the steps. They'll be more than happy to help you. Post questions in the 12 step forum here...Just get busy. You can do it.