Do I accept that I cannot control another person’s drinking? Another person’s behavior?
I have to. The basis of our marriaage was to never have control issues; that is, I would never be like those in her past and "tell her what to do."
I struggle with this when it involves her safety. I mean, if she is killing herself, isn't the loving husband suppose to tell her that isn't a good idea? It just doesn't seem right to simply let another person die without trying to help them even if they don't want that help.
I remember another thread where a loving brother seems to be in regret and pain for not doing anything to save his sister who just died because of alcohol. I told him not to beat himself up about it and keep the memories of the good times alive in his heart.
I am trying so desperately to follow my own advice. I may be on step 1 for a while but today, right this moment, I accept that I cannot control her drinking. Please dear God, I hope this is right.
