@DayTrader - there's no AA for military spouses in NY - only on bases.
I don't know if anyone has been reading any of what I'm writing but I have read the BB, the 12&12, Living Sober, Daily Reflections and As Bill Sees It.
I've been talking to other alcoholics daily and have begun to face my fear of NYC subways. As for the sex inventory -- it's personal. Some might say "it's not a big deal" but to me it is. I've been to other meetings, told my sponsor that I really want to do my 4th step and back when I switched sponsors to her stupid me told her I want to start at the beginning thinking I'd be well on my way. I also told her I regret making that decision.