I get it. Hold your boundaries, continue to state you don't want to talk about. It finally, slowly, sinks in.
I may or may not have suggested they marry him themselves if they want to obsess about him and/or have a crack at making him who they think he should be. I divorced him, I'm done worrying/thinking/agonizing over the whole business and I certainly don't want to talk about him non-stop. My god. A divorce means I am free!!!
UN-acknowledged co-dependency is not a pleasant thing. She may have helped my recovery more then anything else. How would she react? What would she say right now? OK - I'll do the opposite, lol. I'm kind of being a wise azz but there is a lot of validity to that. I might not know what normal is but I know who I do and do not want to be more like. If I really pay attention that is helpful because I sort all the feedback through that filter before I respond to them personally and even other situations.