Also I like the stick post and when I lived with him I was always in fight or flight but since being on my own for almost a year now, I have calmed down but now have eye problems due to grave's disease or hyperthyroidism. I do not like any stress at all and spend a lot of time by myself, in meetings in church and walking my dog in nature. I do not crave ANY stress at all and when I see him now it is simply to help him clean, drop off food and pick up laundry. I cannot be in his company as it stresses me out, I have some conversation ont he phone once in a while. I do NOT MISS the stress at all.