Nothing changes if nothing changes.
I love the Serenity Prayer. It is my constant companion and those three simple lines provide so much guidance for me.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.....I know that I cannot change the addict. The courage to change the things I can.....it takes a LOT of courage to stop enabling another persons addiction.......and the wisdom to know the difference....the wisdom to understand what I do have control over (me) and what I don't (him).
Our greatest fear is that they will die if we stop doing what we do. Letting go of the fear can set me free and can also set the addict in my life free to live (or die) his way. Believe it or not I find a lot of serenity in that thought.
Think about it.....do you think your friend just might get the help he really needs if others stopped giving him the kind of help he wants
You and your friend will be in my prayers.
gentle hugs
ke