Hi Whiteknuckles,
Yours was a very interesting post and got me thinking about when I first got sober, it was like my reality had shifted on its axis and things I hadn't really noticed before or drank not to notice were glaringly obvious.
Gosh my family would annoy me so much I couldn't bear to be in the same room as them.
I can't really advise you on what to do about hubby, this is really about you getting sober and making that number one priority. It seems to me you have opened a door in your life that you have kept closed for a long time, you are really beginning to see what is really going on in your life. This will be an interesting and a most important time in your life. Go with it
CaiHong