Old 04-06-2012, 09:05 AM
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I also had an ex who did the leaving bit. Often alcohol was involved in some way when he left (though he was not usually drinking when he did leave....he left to get or engage with alcohol).

I also had a "rule/boundary" that he just needed to tell me that he was leaving.

That felt like an honorable request and fair.

I did not think about (until your post) if it was me trying to make something "unacceptable" to me "acceptable"

What do you need for YOU around this? That is not judgemental it is a way to figure out what you need....then the next step is if he can meet it or not. That is not up to you though. I am realizing how much I tried to fit a square peg into a round hold, reading this post.
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