Originally Posted by
laurie6781 
(((((Liz)))))
Maybe it is time for you to start taking care of you and step back from this a bit.
Have you tried Alanon? or counseling? Have you read "Codependent No More"? What are you doing for you?
By doing one or more of the above, you will be able to start honestly looking at what you are or are not getting out of this marriage. Please remember when doing this that the situation as it now stands may be as good as it is ever going to get, and you will have to decide if this is what you want for YOUR LIFE.
We are walking with you in spirit, however, you are the one that has to do the work on you.
J M H O
Love and hugs,
Hi Laurie, yes I'm attending Al Anon, private counseling, and I have read Melody Beattie's books. I didn't ask him for all this information either, he just spit it out last night while we were talking about our marriage, in general. He is scared about the jail time and I mentioned the IID and that's when he said the lawyer told him that he could just buy a beater car and put the IID in that. He told me that I research stuff online too much and that I just need to trust the lawyer.
The only research I did online was to find out if we needed to get the IID on my car too. I was curious if I should remove him from the registration on my car so that we don't have to pay for 2 devices. Honestly, I really wish he wouldn't tell me anything about the DUI but to some degree, I need to know the basics.