Wanttobe, I read your post last night and was just so incredibly bummed for you. I am so happy to hear that your employer is going to stand behind you. That is great news!
Your ex sounds like a sociopath. I hope you get the good legal support you deserve. There are some dirty shenanigans going on in your town and I hope you can get to the bottom of it.
Hugs to you from CA. I am here with you in spirit.