He seems to be focusing on recovery which is good, but avoiding you is not. It must be incredibly frustrating after everything you had to deal with. Has he apologized or made any ammends to you for what he did when he was using/drinking? My boyfriend and I are on the verge of a split and it is due in large part because although he got sober (the first time it was pills...lasted 2 year sober and now it is booze) he never took responsibility, never got professional help, and never apologized for what he put me through. I stayed but spent the last 2 years stuck in the spot I was in when I found out he was using...I was unable to move forward. You deserve someone who is present and it sounds like he is only there physically right now.