Originally Posted by
Florence 
I'm getting a lot of mixed messages about early sobriety and I'm unable to tell what's him being him and what's the fog of early recovery. My counselor is urging inaction until I have all the facts from an addiction counselor, so that's part of it.
IMHO, you are waiting for other people to tell you it's ok to leave, when you are clearly unhappy and have been since...somewhere in 2011 when you first joined SR.
Just because the man is sober doesn't mean he's going to magically become your ideal partner. You have a right to be happy, and you don't need the permission of People With Many Diplomas to want to leave.