I kinda agree with stepsforward on the marriage counseling thing being a good idea. At least you could give it a go, maybe set a deadline for yourself as to how long to see some 'results' of sorts, and see where you're at then. Keeping in mind that sometimes you have to go through a couple of therapists to find the best fit for you. Worth a shot, especially since you now have a young baby. But, yes, always keep in mind you are doing this for YOU, your peace of mind and happiness are first and foremost.