My RAH was sober for almost 2 years before he relapsed. I thought everything was good for the 2 years but it wasnt - all he did was get sober.
I mean, how do you deal with that? Knowing that all of your plans can be completely thrashed if your partner decides to take a drink? It just doesn't seem like much of a partnership, where one person is perpetually teetering on the edge and the other is planning in case of the other's failure. This is part of what I'm really struggling with. That even if I do make this emotional and time investment it's a serious risk.