My RAH was sober for almost 2 years before he relapsed. I thought everything was good for the 2 years but it wasnt - all he did was get sober. There is so much involved in recovery for both of you not just getting sober. It took me 2 years to figure that out. It has been over a year now and I work on myself and he works his recovery things seem alot better. I say "seem" because I have learned with an A even it in recovery things can change. I will continue working my recovery and hopefully my RAH does the same. Good luck to you - Hugs your way it isnt an easy road but it does get better and you see things for what they are if you work on yourself.