HI Rose...
I'm so sorry about your emotional hangover. I know what it feels like.
Please don't make the mistake of evalutating your self-worth based on your husband's reactions to you. Most people who become addicted to drugs and alcohol turned to them because they are not emotional tug of war heroes.
Taking his thoughts and behavior as a valid criticism would be something like letting Tammy Faye Baker give you makeup tips.
Hugs!
Smoke