My reality is that my son did a 4 month "boot camp" SLE end of last year and is still doing well. We helped him out with some things when he first went in and then tapered off and did our best to "wait for the question".
My other reality is that he is, and always will be one bad decision away from relapsing and there's nothing I can do. Although I find that quite frustrating, I have learned much from reading here and can only hope I will handle things properly if that day comes.
"pink cloud of recovery...journey not a destination" - awesome.
Wish you well.