How do u just be done with it? How do u stop those what of questions? I feel like I'm waking up from an 8 year nightmare I always asked what if he kills himself what of something ba happens its my fault...now I see so many people think the same way. Wow. I just I didn't realize this was such a common occurrence among families of the abuser. I feel so stupid for letting this go on for as long as it did. I wish u the best and strength because I know it's such a difficult thing to do.