Sounds like you know what you need to do, I respect you tremedously for taking the steps to make your and your childrens life peaceful.
I just thought I would tell you , I grew up in a family where my father was a very violent and relentless alcoholic, the scars it has left in my life are apparent still, but I am healing them everyday.
I always wished when I was a child that my mother would take me out of there, she never did. Everything about me would be different I am sure. I am not trying to put more guilt on you, what I wrote is straight up how I feel, and I wouldn't trade my life for any other one, children deserve peace, not the chaos and terror of a father who can't get a hold of his life.
But with a Mom like you, they can't go wrong , I mean that!!!
I never once heard my mother say she was worried about how it was affecting myself and my bothers, thanks for saying it . The kid inside me loved it
:ghug3