As much as we may think the addict doesn't love us sometime it's not true. They are in the grip of an illness which ends are almost always the same, jails, institutions and death. I used to think my addict chose drugs over me but that's not really the way it is. It really has little to do with us, and everything to do with their addiction. Behind all my anger has always been and still is sadness. Sadness and dismay for this cunning disease called addiction. There is only one known cure (abstaining from drugs) and until the addict decides to get in recovery, it is just plain old crazy making. Nothing makes sense and a person who is not using and loves and cares for the addict cannot really find much logic in the addict's actions, behaviours or words. Try to give yourself a break.