You know what I think bothers me the most is that it reminds me of my childhood. It's so much easier for me to do what she's wants than to confront her. Just like it was with my father.
I find myself not wanting to judge her. She's 70+ years old and I can't imagine her giving up her beer/wine. However, if anything happened to her after I gave her a ride to the store I would feel responsible.
Guess it is yet another opportunity for me to grow :-\
Thanks,
db