As for the "I don't want to approach anybody" -- is that fear of rejection, or the feeling that... if you take the first step, and then end up not liking him, it's harder to back out because you were the one who initiated it?
Actually, it's neither. It's more like self-righteousness. You know, saying to myself: "In my marriage, I had to do EVERYTHING. When is someone gonna do something for me?!"
Hey, I didn't say it was a HEALTHY feeling, just how I feel. And you know, it's true. I DO want a bit of kid-glove treatment. Is that SO bad?