My axbf's sister does all those things and more. She drove him to the pawn shop to sell my tv and computer to buy drugs not so long ago. She gets him Oxys and gives him money and buys him food and cigarettes. She's sick. She needs help but she doesn't want it. Unfortunately she's such a massive enabler that age justifies his actions towards me and his daughter, or refuses to believe, or blames me. I've stopped talking to her in an attempt to limit damage to myself- she's incredibly toxic. She can't be happy but she's enabled him for over 20 years, I don't know what it'll take for her to stop- or maybe she never will. I can't fix her anymore than I can fix him though!