Wow, this thread is so speaking to me. Thank you everyone, I am in the exact same place as Crystafur with the burning, overwhelming desire to fix my son. He is 22 now and just relapsed. He MAY be homeless and on drugs or he MAY be working on his recovery, but one thing I am trying to accept is he is NOT calling me to ask for rescue.
I think this is a good thing but my old ways want to swoop in and do everything for him.
Crystafur, I suggest you read all of the posts and stickies at the top as they are full of help and wisdom as is the posters who are responding to you. codependency is as pervasive as the addiction and takes work to overcome.
Hugs,
Teresa