Al-Anon strategies...I don't think there is one specific thing I could quote but I can say if this is a part of him you are willing to accept, then find a way to not be annoyed by it because until he deals with what is broken inside him, dry or not, it will continue.
Accept the things we cannot change... you won't be able to change this in him, he has to recognize it and replace his stinkin thinkin with something more productive.
But I have to agree with you - it is super irritating. Amazing to me how some people actually do think the world revolves around them and react according to that mindset. The rest of us just shake our heads and hope someday - they'll get it.
In the meantime, like you did in your second post, try to focus on the positive things and let the negative stuff go.