Feeling Down...no worries.....this community is about everyone and I have found many many threads, comments and caring folks who help....
...Yes...I think he needs to make amends with the group to the ex and her family to move on. I think maybe I am seeing this through my ex and me instead of my current husband and this woman. What I didn't mention before is that my ex died of alcohol related disease recently adn there is no hope of amends now...I guess I wonder whether i would have receptive if he had lived and come to me and whether I would have taken him back. See what I mean by substituting the two couples?
Yes......i think you are right...more introspective and therapy is needed...not so sure about Al Anon but considering it.......still don't want to talk more to the husband....sometimes I think we are so raw ourselves from recent addictions / co-dependencies that we sometimes cannot see the forest for the trees......emotionally speaking......