Originally Posted by
sugarbear1 
"...except when to do so would injure them or others"
I disagree with Music in regards to the fact that the amends process seems to be hurting you....
I'd talk to hubby about how you are feeling about his process.... are you in Al Anon? Two alkie husbands and just therapy.... Seems there's more to you that could be recovering, too. Al Anon might help you!
Bingo.
I don't think making amends to an ex is a very good idea, especially if you are in a serious relationship. I would just be honest with him and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. Explain that you want to be supportive but not at your own emotional expense.
Just my two cents.