Old 03-16-2012, 06:36 AM
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Mavis1
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Here's some reality for you...

doesn't sound like he is at all serious about recovery.
He could relapse - that is a big possibility, that is what alcoholics do sometimes.
Your financial woes if you do get married and have to take full responsibilty for say a mortgage, credit cards or if he gets dui/accidents etc. HUGE you'll think 10k is a drop in the bucket.
the emotional trauma gets so much worse, if it's bad now will only get worse.
run don't walk away from this man. you want to but your heart says stay, I know and your situation was very similiar to mine and I took him back and he was the worst ever after I let him back home, quit his job, went to jail for dui for 2 years, and in the end he died from this disease and if I had not have divorced him would have been responsible for thousands of dollars in hospital ICU end of life costs, and credit cards and other stuff. SO go ahead and trust your first GUT feeling and that was to NOT take him back...you deserve SO MUCH BETTER. Love yourself FIRST, take care of YOU. I feel for you, this is so hard when your heart is involved..get your mind wrapped around it, don' tmake this mistake...please..
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