I just feel for her, so bad. Her mother continues to let her down and I really am wondering if it would just be best to stop contact altogether, until such time as mum can pull her finger out and actually be a mum.
If SD is willing I would stop contact all together.
It must be tortuous for your daughter to wait, and then have her watch her bio mom struggle to survive a couple of hours without booze. Shaking the table is not good.
Let your daughter do Mother's Day her way. Maybe ask her once what SHE wants to do.
NikNok, she is your daughter (for all intents), and as long as she knows she can come to you, this lessens her pain and discomfort.
It sounds like her bio mom is regressing even further back. Like a ten year old.
Thank you for being there for her.
Love her (I know you do) and be as honest as you can.
I am grateful for my sobriety today.
Beth